Aug 11, 2023
Hey there, it's Chris and Melissa from the Family Brand Podcast! We're back, and this week we're diving into a topic that's close to our hearts - breaking free from limiting beliefs. We've all had those moments where a challenge comes up, and suddenly those background beliefs say, "You're not good enough." But here's the thing: Every single one of us has the power to decide who we want to be. It's about the journey, the transformation, and sometimes, that very first step of confronting our inner reflections.
We've had some amazing discussions lately, especially as we teach a class at our church. Recently, we explored the 'Have, Do, Be' versus 'Be, Do, Have' model. Most people start with what they want to have, then decide what they need to do to get there, and finally think about who they will be once they achieve those things.
But what if we flipped that?
What if we started with who we want to become, did the things that person would do, and then naturally got what we truly desire? A perfect example is the story of Saul becoming Paul in the Bible. It's a powerful reminder that our past doesn't define our future.
Now, you might wonder, how do we bring this idea into our lives? We believe it's about regular introspection. For instance, back-to-school season or New Year's provide a natural pause to reflect. But remember, it's crucial to silence those doubting voices that say, "I don't know who I want to be." Trust in the truth of our family vision: "We believe you can be who you want to be."
So, whether you're seeking guidance through spirituality, self-reflection, or sheer determination, remember that you can transform. You have the power to be whoever you truly want. Thanks for joining us on this journey, and here's to discovering our best selves!
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Episode Minute By Minute:
00:41 Melissa and Chris are back, doing this week's episode together!
01:24 Chris and Melissa serve in their local church, teaching the 15 year olds
03:08 Chris has always had a passion to teach, even from a young age
04:30 Chris shares a model of a target called, “have, do, be versus be, do, have”
04:48 The center ring is often the focus of things that we want to have
05:10 The second ring is figuring out what we have to do in order to get those things
05:54 The final ring is when we don’t end up liking who we’ve become because of the obsession of things that we don’t have
07:04 It’s easier to focus on the things that we don’t have because focusing on what you are becoming can be confronting
09:24 Saul in the Bible demonstrates how to go from being a bad person to one of the greatest missionaries
11:19 It is is never too late to think of who you want to become in life
12:19 The first lie that we can tell ourselves is that we are not good enough
12:24 The second lie that we can live in is that we don’t know what we want
14:49 Speak into existence who you want to become long before you become it
16:12 Ask yourself, “what's one thing that I know I want to become more of right now?”
16:44 Then ask yourself, “what is one thing that I can do this week to become more of?”
17:33 Melissa shares her journey on being more consistent by waking up extra early
19:00 Ask yourself, “what's one thing I can do that'll start getting me closer to that?”
20:32 Chris and Melissa chare how they strive to be more present at home with family
23:12 These conversations are great for adults and for families, to start becoming, not doing